记住:你应该努力去追求幸福

2012.01.16

在喧闹而奔忙的世界中平静地往前走
这是多么和平、安宁
你要与周围地所有的人友好相处
尽可能不要放弃这种努力和追求
你要轻轻却要清晰地说出自己地真实思想
并且耐心倾听别人含糊甚至烦人的想法
因为每个人都有他们自己的故事
你要远远避开那些吵闹、具有侵略性的人
他们会使你的精神痛苦
如果你将自己与他人作比
那么你将变得既自负又痛苦
因为这世上永远有着比你强和比你弱的人们
你该享受你自己的成就和计划
保持对你自己的事业的兴趣
它们不管多么细琐、低下,都是你
在变化多端的时代能真正拥有的财产
在商业事务中你要小心谨慎
这世上到处都有阴谋和欺骗
你也不要让自己对美德视而不见
世界上很多人为了崇高的理想在忍饥挨饿
生活中到处都有英雄主义存在
你对你自己要诚实
尤其不要无情装有情
对爱情不要玩世不恭
在这干旱、没有希望的土地上
它是一片四季常青的绿洲
你要认真吸取流水年华的经验
从容地向青春时光告别
你要培养自己的精神力量
以抗击突如其来的不幸的打击
但你千万不要用想象使自己苦恼、忧伤
有很多恐惧产生于疲劳和孤独
除去有益于身心健康的原则之外
你要善待你自己
你和树林、星星一样是这茫茫宇宙的一分子
你有权力生活在这里
毫无疑问这世界已经完全为你打开
所以你要与上帝和平相处
不论你觉得他身在何方
也不论你作出何种努力、有什么渴望
在喧闹、混杂的生活中
你应该与你的心灵和平相处
尽管这世上有很多假冒和欺骗
有很多单调乏味的工作
和众多破灭的梦幻
它仍然是一个美好的世界
记住:你应该努力去追求幸福

———-1692年镌刻于 巴尔的摩圣保罗教堂

我的心是一座小城

2012.01.02

-顾城

我的心,
是一座城,
一座最小的城。
没有杂乱的市场,
没有众多的居民。
冷冷清清,
冷冷清清,
只有一片落叶,
只有一簇花丛,
还偷偷掩藏着——
儿时的深情。

我的梦,
是一座城,
一座最小的城。
没有森严的殿堂,
没有神圣的坟陵,
安安静静,
安安静静,
只有一团薄雾,
只有一阵微风,
还悄悄依恋着——
童年的纯真。

啊,我是一座小城,
一座最小的城,
只能住一个人,
我的梦中人,
我的心上人,
我的爱人哪——
为什么不来临?
为什么不来临?

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第四幕 思

2011.12.31

2011年过去了,我很怀念它。

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Someone like you

2011.12.18

Adele

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Suzhou River

2011.12.18

恍惚的眼前 — 窦鹏 苏州河

“ 如果有一天我走了,你会像马达那样找我吗?

会啊。

会一直找吗?

会。

会一直找到死吗?

会。

你撒谎。”

How To Stop Procrastinating

2011.12.16

Recognize that procrastination stems from habit. New habits will be needed, and these take time and commitment to develop.
Harold Taylor defines procrastination as the intentional and habitual postponement of an important task that should be done now.
Understand the cause for procrastination, then develop strategies to fix it.
Recognize the difference between an appropriate decision to delay, and an irrational postponement without justification.
Fix procrastination by working on a) tasks and b) your environment:

TASK STRATEGIES

Unpleasant tasks

Unpleasant tasks rarely turn out to be as bad as you think.
Complete these tasks first. Schedule them for early in the day. Give yourself a reward for doing them.

Complex Projects

Something looms ahead of you: starting a small business, getting a job, preparing the annual budget. The job is too big or will take too long to do now, so you put it off.
Break large jobs into smaller, more manageable tasks. Plan and complete a start-up task, no matter how small.
Indecision
People delay because they can’t make up their minds.
Determine a time for making a decision and the criteria for making it. Share your deadline with someone else.

Fear of failure (lack of self confidence)

People don’t want to face the consequences of failure, so they delay. (Some people suffer from fear of success too!)
Develop a clear mental picture of the completed task and how you will feel at that time. Maintain a focus on the end result, not just the process. Remind yourself how good you’ll feel when you’re finished.

Lack of interest

You are tired or lazy. You’re just not very interested in the task.
Reward yourself for accomplishments. Go out for special lunches when major projects are completed. If you don’t earn the reward, don’t take it.
Schedule the task for when you will be at your peak.
Perfectionism

People delay because they want to get the project perfect.
Set deadlines for yourself. Tell other people your deadlines and encourage them to check up on you.
Maintain your high standards, but recognize that sometimes 80% for you may well be 100% for someone else. Don’t spend hours conducting a detailed cost breakdown when a rough estimate would suffice.

Hostility towards a boss

People delay because they don’t like the person who assigned the task.
Review with your boss what exactly is needed. Clarify the expectations.
Make a game out of unpleasant tasks. Give yourself points, or do a running commentary on yourself as you do the task.

Distraction, lack of focus

Sometimes losing concentration causes delays.
Create a to-do list with priorities.
Block your time for projects.
As you get distracted from a work project, make a rule that you are not allowed to move out of your chair, make a call, surf the net, pick up a book etc. until you return to your task.
Complete something. Make a very small task for yourself and finish it. Very small. Then, make another one.

ENVIRONMENT STRATEGIES

Tailor your environment for work. Close your door, clean up the clutter on your desk.
Remove distractions such as water coolers, snacks, in-boxes, coffee machines and magazine racks.
If you work at home, treat your office as an office. Don’t go out to lunch before lunchtime or watch television before the end of the day.
Tell your family that you are not to be disturbed in your home office.